
It is a dreary Sunday on Capitol Hill. The anti-gay National Organization for Marriage (NOM) pointedly sets up their rally by the nation’s legislature, turning its back to the high court just across the road. The courts have not been kind to their cause of late, overturning the ban on gay marriage in California just days before.
Although the rain had let up an hour earlier, the organizers are agitated. After 22 other stops in 19 states on its “Summer for Marriage Tour,” NOM knows that the chances of pro-LGBT groups staging a counter-protest are fairly high; they have done it at every other stop.
“Everyone has a first amendment right to stand up.” NOM President Brian Brown remarks pensively. “As long as they don’t try to interfere with our rally they’re fine.” According to Brown, counter-protesters in previous rallies stormed the podium, asked protesters “if it’s OK to raise your kids as little bigots,” and attempted to drown out their speeches with a bullhorn. “Behavior that’s not civil at all.”
Officially, a counter-protest in support of gay marriage called “The Big Commit” is planned for Freedom Plaza, on the other side of town. That event has a larger, more cheerful crowd, complete with rainbow snow cones and musical performances. Alexandra Andrea Beninda, a transgender woman and political activist who moved from Virginia to DC to enjoy its stronger LGBT rights sees the rally as a sign of progress in their battle. “Today is a celebration of where we’ve come locally, and to make a statement with our numbers to that group down the street.”

Beninda, who is bisexual, has a particularly unique perspective on marriage equality. Before she transitioned legally and physically from being a male, she was only allowed to marry a woman. Now, as a female, she is only allowed to marry a man. “You should be able to find the one person you love and want to marry and you shouldn’t have somebody telling you that.”
In a message to participants, “The Big Commit” organizers urged restraint. “Every time NOM gets what they deem an ‘angry’ response from justifiably angry counter-protesters, they use that to incite fear and spread lies, which in turn nets them an average of $100,000 from their supporters.” But that didn’t stop a handful of activists from various organizations showing up at the NOM rally, some to simply to show opposition, others geared for a confrontation.
On the sidelines of the NOM podium, LGBT allies begin lining up with signs reading “NO More hate” and “How dare they try to end this beauty?” Some more light-hearted activists brandish signs with humorous, mocking slogans like “God Hates Bags” and the ever versatile “I Have a Sign!”
Among them are Megan Miller, 19, and Rob Ciano, 22, who drove down from New Jersey just to protest the NOM. “You have to stand up and say what you think is right and what you think is wrong,” said Ciano.
NOM’s turnout is somewhat dissapointing. Buses are delayed, some supporters seem to be on the wrong side of the Capitol, and one of the speakers is missing. But with about 100 activists waiting, the show must go on. Brown opens with a warning of counter-protests to come, urging his audience to “meet any form of hatred here with love,” and eliciting a collective eye roll from the counter-protesters.
Things remain calm, even as the next speaker, the vehemently anti-gay Bishop Harry Jackson of Washington’s Hope Christian Church, begins his speech by calling for a round of applause “for Jesus.”
Then it begins.
Marching past the Capitol, equipped with signs, T-shirts, and the dreaded bullhorn, self-declared Queer activists spread out behind a large yellow banner reading “Equality Delayed, Equality Denied, We are Dying.” Over the loud-speaker comes the planned disruption. “We would like to take a few moments to honor our dead, LGBT Americans who were murdered by people who were influenced by groups like the National Organization for Marriage and use homophobia to justify killing us.” The Queer activists’ signs depict the victims of hate crimes, who had been murdered for their sexual orientation or gender identity.

Because the counter-protesters had arranged a permit for the other side of the lawn, not the road by the NOM protest, the police quickly usher them along. In order to avoid arrest, they are forced to keep the whole party moving as they read their admonitions, slowly making their way beyond the anti-marriage rally. “NOM’s words keep our families from being equal to straight families under the law. But more tragically, let us never forget, NOM’s words lead to murder!” they cry from increasingly farther away.
Several NOM protesters go over and engage with them, sparking yelling matches between people armed only with words and video cameras. Others set up camp next to the more innocuous counter-protesters, as if to diffuse their influence by blending them into the crowd. Most of them remain unmoved by the display.

Two Virginia women, Anne Bowden and Darci Nelson, say they came to protest because in their view, the gay marriage debate is part of the greater issue of “the natural order.” Ms. Nelson believes that legalizing gay marriage would simply encourage a habit of sin, high levels of which can undermine the strength of any nation. “Just look at the Roman Empire, or Sodom and Gomorrah!” People should not construct laws simply to justify their lusts or sexual choices, she says.
As the confrontations die down, Dan Kaufman, a longtime gay rights activist who moved to DC to participate in more protests, stands patiently on the sidelines. He holds a lengthy sign, part of which reads “Your morals, sexuality, child-rearing abilities, upbringing, and faith are none of my business, and mine are none of yours.”
Yet even Kaufman believes that nobody on either side of the debate is likely to be convinced by the others. Such events, he dryly observes, “are rally calls for people who already know what they want to do.”
-Niv Elis